Yes, Babes In Toyland is my favorite band. I love them to death, they’re awesome. My favorite song by them probably has to be “Realeyes”, but it’s hard to pin me down to a definite statement because it changes constantly. Lets talk about Babes In Toyland.
“‘Men get raped and molested,’ should be a whole sentence. If you have to tack on the word ‘too,’ then you’re using the experience of male victims to silence females instead of giving them their own space.”—
I feel like there’s something wrong with this statement. I’m not saying that this opinion is wrong, but I disagree with this. Yes, women get raped and molested and abused at the ultimate level and it is fucked up and it is wrong and it is traumatizing and things need to change. But I feel like you NEED to say “too” when saying this, because this issue is swept under the rug. It’s almost as if we forget that this happens. Like if a guy says he was raped or molested, people laugh and say “so?” Even on an episode of Dr. Phil this happened- and Dr. Phil is the one who said it (what happened~ man: I didn’t want to have sex with her, she threw herself on me. Dr. Phil: she threw herself on you? Man: yes, she threw herself on me after I said no multiple times- Dr. Phil: well poor you). And if a male student has sex with a female teacher, people say they scored whereas when a girl student has sex with a male teacher people tear them apart. And when a man is in an abusive relationship with a woman, whether it’s emotional/verbal/physical, more often than not they are told to “man up”. Well, I’m sorry, but that is not okay. We need to remember that we are all human beings trying to live a peaceful life and it is NOT okay for MEN AND WOMEN to be taken advantage of.
just gonna say this: if someone has social anxiety and they ask you something akin to ‘are you mad at me’ or ‘do you hate me’, it isn’t because they don’t trust you, it’s because their brain literally tells them that all the time
it’s not a personal slight, it’s insecurity caused by mental illness